I realized something. I made big plans, and huge goals, and I didn’t care who understood. I’m only partially right in that statement. As I set these goals in motion, my entire family looked at me like I had three heads. Who can really blame them? I forgot to include them. That doesn’t work very well. I woke up with the intention of making my life what I wanted it to be, and I left the biggest part of my life in the dark. My family. Silly me, I had taken, “Don’t let anyone get in the way of your dreams!” and ran with it…to an extreme!
Example, I made plans to hike Mt. Mitchell. Great, it’s the biggest mountain this side of the Mississippi. I want to do it with the mister, but I forgot to tell him. He loves to hike, so why would I even consider telling him that he’s doing it? I’d like to say that I’m kidding, but I’m not. I had to ask myself, why am I not making my hiking goals with him? I mean, really, he’s like, “Let’s do it!” But, at the same time, he’s telling me, “I don’t even know your mind.” We were out of sync, and that was my fault. 100% my fault.
When I started showing, and telling him my dreams and goals, he was on board. He just needed to be clued in. When you share a life with someone, you cannot leave them out of where you want to be. He actually has his own dreams. Who knew? Well, I would have, if I had taken a minute to talk to him. I want to support them, and I want to be a part of them. He was trying to tell me the same thing, but I was over here doing my own thing, thinking I owed no one an excuse. I was on the defense, when I didn’t need to be. I had no reason to defend anything.
I really had to change my approach. My family loves me, and they support me, and I have to clue them in. I think I kept my goals from them because I was afraid of failing. What if they think of everything that I say as something I just spout and never follow through? It’s easy to get a mindset that your goals should be a secret in case you don’t do them.
My kids look at my goal of doing yoga on the beach as a trip to the beach. Who wouldn’t be alright with that??? They like to travel, they want to be a part of these things. They have their own things that they want out of life. Telling them what I want, actually opens them up to tell me what they want. That allows us to brainstorm ideas to make our goals happen. It’s nice to have my goals, and that has not, and will not change. It’s even nicer to have a team. We are learning to feed off of each other for what we want.